The Soft Power Journal

Category: Seasonal Reflections

  • Lessons from the Quiet Season

    Lessons from the Quiet Season

    No one really prepares you for the season when life goes quiet.

    You’re not spiraling, but you’re not soaring.

    You’re not broken, but you’re not blooming either.

    You’re just… here.

    In the space between what was and what’s coming.

    In the silence between prayers and answers.

    And at first, it’s peaceful.

    But then it gets uncomfortable.

    You start asking yourself: Am I missing something? Did I mess this up? Why isn’t anything happening?

    But I want you to know something:

    The quiet season isn’t a punishment. It’s a classroom.

    I’ve been in that season.

    When the plans stall. When the friends disappear.

    When the spark fades and the noise dims and you don’t know what to grab onto.

    And I remember thinking: God, did You forget about me?

    But He didn’t.

    He was just speaking in a language I hadn’t learned yet:

    stillness.

    Because in the quiet, everything echoes louder—your doubts, your desires, your truth.

    And if you listen closely, you’ll realize:

    The quiet doesn’t mean nothing’s happening. It means something sacred is.

    Here’s what the quiet season teaches you—if you let it:

    1. Who are you when no one’s clapping?

    When no one’s validating you. When there’s no audience, no applause, no obvious results.

    Can you still show up for yourself?

    2. Can you hear your own voice beneath the noise?

    The quiet strips away distractions.

    It asks you to tune back into you—your needs, your values, your spirit.

    3. Not everything that slows you down is a setback.

    Sometimes, it’s divine pacing.

    Sometimes, it’s protection disguised as a pause.

    So if you’re in the quiet season right now, try this:

    Create a “Stillness Practice.”

    Each morning or night, ask yourself: What do I need to hear today?

    Write down whatever comes up. It doesn’t have to make sense. Let your spirit speak.

    Start noticing what’s growing instead of what’s missing.

    Maybe your patience.

    Maybe your trust.

    Maybe your emotional capacity.

    Reframe the silence.

    Instead of “Nothing is happening,” try: “I’m being refined in ways I can’t see yet.”

    There is something beautiful being built inside the silence.

    This season is not wasted.

    This season is not void.

    It is an altar. It is a cocoon.

    It is the quiet before your bloom.

    So breathe.

    Take the pressure off.

    And remember:

    Sometimes the most powerful things grow in silence first.

  • This Isn’t Stuck, This is Preparation

    This Isn’t Stuck, This is Preparation

    There’s a moment when the noise dies down.

    The texts slow.

    The plans don’t go through.

    The vision board starts to blur.

    And even though you’re still showing up, still breathing, still doing what you can… it feels like nothing is moving.

    You start wondering if you’re missing something.

    If you lost your touch.

    If God stopped listening.

    But what if… you’re not stuck?

    What if this is holy ground, and you’re standing at the edge of a becoming too sacred to rush?

    Because here’s what nobody tells you:

    Preparation feels like stillness.

    It feels like quiet days, unseen work, plans that don’t stick, and prayers that echo back with silence.

    It feels like pulling weeds with no sign of blooms.

    And it will feel like stuck—until you realize you’re actually being softened for what’s next.

    I know that space.

    I’ve cried in it. Fought it. Tried to outwork it.

    I’ve sat in rooms where I once felt powerful and wondered why I suddenly felt invisible.

    I’ve looked at other people’s progress and questioned if I took too many detours.

    But eventually I realized:

    Every delay was disguised direction. Every pause was a prayer being answered quietly.

    Because real power?

    It doesn’t always enter loud.

    Sometimes it tiptoes in while you’re wiping your eyes and learning how to be gentle with yourself again.

    Let’s talk about what preparation really looks like:

    It’s the days when nothing makes sense but your intuition won’t let you quit.

    It’s the version of you that doesn’t feel “on,” but somehow still chooses to show up.

    It’s the space between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming—and the ache of no longer fitting into either.

    You’re not being punished.

    You’re being positioned.

    But you’ve gotta stop calling it stuck.

    Because stuck implies lifelessness.

    And sis, you are anything but lifeless.

    You are actively being re-rooted.

    Refined.

    Redirected.

    Even if it doesn’t look like movement, you are becoming.

    Here’s how to hold yourself when it feels like nothing’s happening:

    1. Stop measuring your momentum by what’s visible.

    Growth doesn’t always leave proof. Sometimes the roots are strengthening before the bloom.

    2. Ask: “What is this preparing me for?” instead of “Why is this happening?”

    Shift the narrative. You’re not being blocked, you’re being built.

    3. Create a “preparation altar.”

    Write down what you’re calling in. Add something symbolic—an old photo, a letter, a verse.

    Place it somewhere you’ll see every day. Let it remind you that the pause is sacred.

    4. Breathe. Really breathe.

    When you start to spiral, come back to your body.

    Place your hand on your heart and say: I trust this pause is protecting and preparing me.

    5. Let this version of you be enough.

    Not the “glowed up” one. Not the “ready” one.

    The one that’s in-between. The one learning how to hold faith without a finish line.

    If this season is quiet… you’re not broken. You’re being spoken to differently.

    So maybe it’s not time to force a breakthrough.

    Maybe it’s time to receive what only silence can offer.

    You don’t need to have all the answers.

    You don’t need to be on fire to be walking in purpose.

    And you don’t need to rush something that’s already yours.

    This isn’t stuck.

    This is where your wings are being stretched.

    This is where your prayers are gaining roots.

    This is where power is being woven into your stillness.

    This… is preparation.

  • The Feminine Reset: 5 Ways to Tap Back Into Your Power This Season

    The Feminine Reset: 5 Ways to Tap Back Into Your Power This Season

    There’s something about this time of year—when the days stretch a little longer and the air feels a little softer—that calls us to pause. To exhale. To remember who we are underneath all the roles, routines, and masks we wear just to get through the day.

    I used to think I needed a major life change to reset.

    A move. A breakup. A brand-new identity.

    But I’ve learned that sometimes the most powerful shift doesn’t come from running away—

    It comes from returning to yourself.

    This is your reminder: You don’t need to reinvent your entire life to come alive again.

    Sometimes, you just need to reset your energy—and let your feminine power rise back to the surface.

    What Is a Feminine Reset?

    It’s not productivity. It’s not perfection.

    It’s a deep exhale. A surrender. A soft power strategy.

    It’s choosing to nourish your inner world instead of constantly performing in the outer one.

    A feminine reset isn’t about changing everything.

    It’s about remembering the version of you who felt whole, even in her quiet moments.

    And if you’re ready to find her again, here’s where you can begin:

    1. Make Space for Stillness

    In a world that glorifies the grind, choosing stillness is a radical act.

    But stillness is where clarity lives. It’s where your intuition gets louder than the noise.

    Try this:

    • Turn off your phone for an hour

    • Sit in silence and breathe—no music, no scrolling, just you

    • Journal what comes up without censoring yourself

    Your soul has been trying to get a word in. Stillness lets her speak.

    2. Romanticize the Ordinary

    There is sacred power in how you pour your morning tea.

    In how you oil your skin. In the way you dress, even if no one’s watching.

    Feminine power isn’t always loud—it’s often felt in the details.

    Create beauty around you. Make your life a ceremony.

    Not for anyone else—but because you are worth the effort.

    3. Nourish Your Body Without Punishment

    This season, feed your body like it’s your best friend.

    Not like it’s a problem to be solved.

    Your softness is not a flaw. Your cravings are not weaknesses.

    Ask yourself:

    • What would feel nourishing right now?

    • What would bring more pleasure to this moment?

    Honor that. And stop apologizing for your desires.

    4. Reignite Your Sacred Yes (and Unapologetic No)

    There is so much power in your boundaries.

    Saying no is self-respect. Saying yes, from a place of truth, is liberation.

    Don’t say yes to what drains you.

    Don’t say no to what lights you up out of fear of judgment.

    Reclaim your discernment. Your intuition already knows what’s aligned.

    5. Call Your Energy Back to You

    At the end of each day—or after any interaction that leaves you feeling “off”—pause and say:

    “I call all of my energy back to me.

    Anything that is mine, return home.

    Anything that is not, I release with love.”

    Visualize your energy returning.

    Golden. Soft. Powerful.

    Let it fill your body and settle into your heart.

    You don’t have to be everything for everyone.

    But you do need to be everything for yourself.

    A Reset Isn’t a Breakdown—It’s a Rebirth

    You’re not behind.

    You’re not too late.

    You’re just ready to begin again—with more intention, more softness, and more power than before.

    This is your season to reset.

    Not to hustle or prove, but to feel, to breathe, to realign.

    And in doing so—you’ll remember just how powerful you’ve always been.