The Soft Power Journal

Category: Self-Worth & Confidence

  • You’re Not Too Much—They Were Just Too Small

    You’re Not Too Much—They Were Just Too Small

    There’s a lie that so many of us, especially women, have been fed since the beginning:

    That we have to shrink in order to be loved.

    That our softness is a burden.

    That our strength makes us intimidating.

    That our emotions are too much.

    And what happens when you hear that lie enough times?

    You start trying to edit yourself.

    You overthink every word, every feeling, every truth your body wants to speak.

    You start shrinking in places where you were born to rise.

    But let me tell you something—and I want you to read this slow:

    You were never too much.

    You were never too sensitive.

    You were never too emotional, too bold, too loud, too honest.

    They were just too small to hold the fullness of you.

    You weren’t asking for too much—you were just asking the wrong people.

    The truth is, being deeply connected to yourself and your truth is a gift. Not everyone will know what to do with that. And that’s not your burden to carry. That’s their limitation. Their emotional immaturity. Their discomfort with intimacy. Their unhealed parts reacting to your wholeness. And you do not have to apologize for that.

    In fact, one of the softest, most feminine things you can do is release the need to be understood by everyone.

    Let them misunderstand you. Let them label you. Let them make assumptions.

    You’re not here to be digestible.

    You’re here to be true.

    You don’t have to justify your tears.

    You don’t have to explain why you care so deeply.

    You don’t need to prove your softness isn’t weakness.

    The ones who are meant to see you—will.

    The ones who can hold space for all of you won’t flinch when you bring your full self to the table.

    You don’t need to shrink. You need to stretch.

    You don’t need to quiet down. You need to get louder.

    And not in volume—but in presence. In truth. In power.

    This post isn’t about clapping back.

    It’s about calling yourself forward.

    So let me ask you:

    Where are you still shrinking to fit?

    Who are you editing yourself for?

    What version of you are you finally ready to reclaim?

    This is your permission slip.

    To take up space.

    To show up fully.

    To be both gentle and powerful.

    To be seen, felt, heard—and deeply respected.

    And if someone calls that “too much”?

    Tell them this: “I’m not too much. You’re just not enough for me.”

    Let that be your standard. Let that be your liberation.

    ✨ Let this post be your reminder: softness is not weakness, and your truth deserves room. Continue your journey through power, presence, and radical softness at The Soft Power Journal.

  • Softness is a Strength: Why You Don’t Have to Get Harder to Be Taken Seriously

    Softness is a Strength: Why You Don’t Have to Get Harder to Be Taken Seriously

    I used to believe that strength had to look like sharp edges. Like staying unbothered, never crying, walking through the world untouched, unaffected, and completely self-sufficient. I thought softness was a liability—something that would make people question my authority or overlook my worth.

    But here’s the truth no one told me: Softness is not the opposite of strength. It’s the birthplace of it.

    Softness is what lets you feel. Stay grounded. Stay human. It’s what allows you to stay connected to your intuition in a world that profits off your disconnection. It’s what keeps you tender in moments when life tries to turn you cold.

    I learned this the hard way. When I started showing up softer—more present, more in tune, more vulnerable—some people did fall away. But the right ones? The ones who could hold my full humanity? They leaned in. They saw me more clearly.

    We’re taught to lead like men to be respected. To speak with edge. To hustle harder. To earn our rest. But the women I admire most don’t lead with force—they lead with presence. With inner steadiness. With grace that refuses to shrink, even when it’s misunderstood.

    Here’s why you don’t have to harden to be taken seriously:

    Because power rooted in love is louder than power rooted in fear.

    Because boundaries set with clarity carry more weight than defenses built from trauma.

    Because when you trust your own voice, you don’t need to mimic anyone else’s tone.

    Because emotional regulation isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom.

    And here’s what softness can actually look like:

    Saying no without needing to explain yourself.

    Letting yourself cry when your heart is heavy—without shame.

    Speaking from your center, not from your armor.

    Choosing peace over performance.

    Walking away from spaces that only value you when you’re performing strength.

    Softness doesn’t mean shrinking. It doesn’t mean passivity. And it definitely doesn’t mean weakness.

    It means standing in your power while still choosing tenderness.

    It means protecting your peace without becoming hard to love.

    It means honoring your emotions as sacred messengers—not things to silence.

    This is your reminder:

    You don’t have to become harder to be respected.

    You just have to become more you.

    Let softness be your rebellion.

    Let it be the new standard for strength.

  • Protect Your Softness, But Never Mistake It for Weakness

    Protect Your Softness, But Never Mistake It for Weakness

    There’s a misconception that being soft means being weak. That a woman who embraces her femininity, her emotions, and her tenderness is somehow naive or fragile.

    But real softness? Is strength in disguise.

    It takes power to remain soft in a world that tries to harden you. It takes discipline to choose grace when you could retaliate. It takes wisdom to know when to be gentle and when to be firm.

    But let’s be clear—being soft does not mean being a pushover.

    Softness With Boundaries is Unstoppable

    Too many women either suppress their softness in an attempt to be “strong” or let people take advantage of it by lacking boundaries.

    True feminine power lies in balance. It’s about knowing:

    • Your kindness is a choice, not an obligation.

    • Your patience has limits, and those limits must be respected.

    • Your emotions are valuable, but they do not control you.

    • Your ability to love deeply does not mean you tolerate disrespect.

    Softness without strength invites mistreatment. Strength without softness breeds isolation. The most powerful women master both.

    How to Protect Your Softness Without Losing Your Strength

    1. Trust Your Intuition – Being soft doesn’t mean ignoring red flags. Honor your inner knowing and act accordingly.

    2. Set Boundaries Without Guilt – You can be warm and loving while still saying, “This does not work for me.”

    3. Recognize Who Deserves Your Energy – Not everyone is worthy of your gentleness. Save it for those who appreciate it.

    4. Stand Firm When Necessary – Your softness is not an excuse for anyone to underestimate you. If they do, let them be surprised when you remind them otherwise.

    You Can Be Both—And That’s the Secret

    The world tells women they must choose: Be soft or be strong. Be kind or be firm. Be loving or be powerful.

    But the truth? You were never meant to choose. You were meant to be both.

    Soft, but untouchable.

    Loving, but not naive.

    Open-hearted, but with an iron backbone.

    Because a woman who can master both softness and strength? She is unstoppable.

  • You Can’t Lose What’s Meant for You

    You Can’t Lose What’s Meant for You

    Let’s get one thing straight: What’s meant for you will never pass you by.

    Not the opportunity.

    Not the relationship.

    Not the success.

    But here’s where many women get stuck—holding onto what isn’t meant for them out of fear that nothing better will come.

    You know that feeling. That hesitation. That internal struggle when you know deep down something isn’t right, but you keep convincing yourself to stay. You tell yourself maybe if you wait a little longer, try a little harder, or compromise just a little more, things will work out.

    But let’s be real: If something requires you to shrink, beg, or suffer just to keep it, was it ever really yours?

    Why Holding On Keeps You Stuck

    Many people think losing something means failure. That if a job didn’t work out, if a relationship ended, or if a door closed, they must have done something wrong.

    But real loss? Is staying in spaces you’ve outgrown.

    The more you cling to what isn’t for you, the more you block what is. The more you entertain half-hearted love, inconsistent energy, and draining situations, the less space you leave for what actually aligns with you.

    So ask yourself:

    Are you holding on because you truly want it, or because you’re afraid to let go?

    Is it feeding your soul or feeding your fears?

    Because the truth is:

    • If it’s meant for you, it won’t require begging.

    • If it’s aligned, it will feel like peace, not anxiety.

    • If it’s real, it won’t make you question your worth.

    Trust the Shift: What’s Yours Will Find You

    The universe doesn’t operate on desperation—it operates on alignment. When you trust that what’s meant for you will come, you stop forcing what isn’t.

    This means:

    • Walking away when you feel unappreciated, instead of waiting for someone to finally see your value.

    • Releasing relationships that no longer serve you, instead of clinging to history.

    • Trusting that rejection is redirection, instead of taking it as a personal failure.

    Let go. Trust the shift. Walk in faith.

    Because when you finally stop fearing loss, you’ll realize you never had to chase what was already yours.

  • Becoming Unshakable: The Art of Holding Your Power

    Becoming Unshakable: The Art of Holding Your Power

    There comes a moment in every woman’s journey when she realizes that no one can take her power—only she can give it away.

    People will try to provoke you.

    Situations will test you.

    Your past will whisper that you’re not ready.

    But the truth is, you are only as unshakable as you decide to be.

    The strongest, most magnetic women aren’t the ones who never face challenges—they’re the ones who refuse to let those challenges break them. They stand firm. They move with intention. And most importantly, they hold their power, no matter what.

    What It Means to Hold Your Power

    Holding your power doesn’t mean you never feel emotions. It doesn’t mean you never have moments of doubt. It means that you don’t let those emotions or doubts make decisions for you.

    It means:

    • You don’t react—you respond.

    • You don’t chase—you attract.

    • You don’t beg—you observe.

    • You don’t shrink—you rise.

    When you truly embody this, people will notice. They will feel the shift. Some will be drawn to you, others will be intimidated. But none will be able to ignore the presence of a woman who is fully in her power.

    How to Become Unshakable

    If you want to move through life with the kind of confidence that nothing can touch, you have to train yourself to become the eye of the storm, not the chaos within it. Here’s how:

    1. Master Emotional Control – When you let people trigger you, you give them control. Observe, breathe, and decide how you want to respond instead of reacting impulsively.

    2. Detach from External Validation – When you no longer seek approval, no one can manipulate you with it.

    3. Set Boundaries and Enforce Them – A boundary means nothing if you don’t uphold it. Walk away when necessary. No second chances.

    4. Move Like You Are the Prize – Because you are. The more you act like it, the more people will treat you accordingly.

    5. Never Explain Your Standards – You don’t owe anyone a justification for what you will and won’t accept. Either they rise to meet you, or they fall away.

    Your Power is Yours—Reclaim It

    The next time someone tries to make you doubt yourself, remember: Their opinion is not your truth.

    The next time life throws a challenge your way, remember: You are built for this.

    The next time you feel like reacting, remember: Your silence, your presence, and your discernment are your greatest weapons.

    Because the moment you decide that you are unshakable, unstoppable, and untouchable—the world will have no choice but to recognize it, too.

    And that? That’s real power.

  • You Are the Prize: Stop Acting Like an Option

    You Are the Prize: Stop Acting Like an Option

    How many times have you dimmed your light to make someone else comfortable? How often have you settled for breadcrumbs when you deserved the whole feast?

    Too many women move through life like they are optional—like they have to prove their worth to be chosen. But here’s the truth: You were never meant to be an option. You are the prize.

    The Mindset Shift: From Option to Prize

    Being the prize isn’t arrogance—it’s awareness. It’s knowing that your presence, your energy, and your love are gifts, not bargaining chips. It’s recognizing that you don’t have to perform, overgive, or contort yourself just to be “worthy.” You are worthy as you are.

    Men know this. Powerful people know this. The only question is—do you?

    The way you see yourself determines how the world treats you. When you see yourself as the prize, you naturally stop entertaining people and situations that don’t match your value. You stop chasing and start attracting. You stop waiting to be chosen and start choosing yourself.

    How to Step Into Your Prize Energy

    If you’ve spent your life feeling like you have to work for love, validation, or attention, shifting into this mindset takes work. But once you do, you’ll never settle again. Here’s how:

    1. Stop Overexplaining Yourself – You don’t have to justify your standards. If someone can’t meet them, that’s their limitation, not yours.

    2. Embody Main Character Energy- You’re not a side character in someone else’s story. You are the main event. Move accordingly.

    3. Detach from Who Doesn’t Choose You – If they’re inconsistent, unsure, or playing games, let them go. The right people don’t make you feel like you’re an afterthought.

    4. Upgrade Your Environment – Your surroundings should reflect your worth. Elevate the places, people, and experiences you allow into your space.

    5. Let People Prove Themselves to You – You are not the one trying out for their life; they are trying out for yours. Observe, don’t audition.

    The Energy Shift That Changes Everything

    The moment you stop begging for what should be freely given, everything changes. You become magnetic—not because you’re chasing validation, but because your self-worth is unshakable.

    Men feel this energy. People in power sense it. Opportunities respond to it.

    You are no longer just another option. You are the rare, once-in-a-lifetime experience that only a select few get access to. And once you start seeing yourself that way, the world will have no choice but to do the same.

    So, raise your standards.

    Sit at your own table.

    Move like the prize that you are.

    Because when you do? The game changes.