There comes a point in your journey where your growth becomes too loud to ignore. Where your softness can no longer be mistaken for weakness. Where your soul starts shedding what no longer fits—not because it’s unkind, but because it’s misaligned.
This is the part they don’t prepare you for.
Not everyone can walk with you into your becoming.
Some people are attached to the version of you that never said no. The version that bent over backwards. The one that tolerated crumbs, overlooked patterns, or kept the peace at the expense of her own.
But becoming is disruptive.
It reorders the entire room.
It asks you to choose peace over people-pleasing.
And in doing so, it naturally reveals who was only comfortable with your silence—not your truth.
This kind of growth feels like grief. Not because you’re doing something wrong—but because you’re doing something right. You’re honoring the version of you that was always quietly waiting to be chosen by you.
Letting go doesn’t always come with closure. Sometimes the closure is realizing that you kept the door open for people who were never planning to meet you on the other side.
And that’s okay.
Because this chapter isn’t about proving your worth. It’s about protecting it. It’s about becoming the kind of woman who no longer performs for proximity or settles for companionship that costs her clarity. It’s about walking away with your head high and your heart soft—knowing that your becoming will require you to outgrow what once felt like home.
Let it.
Let it shape you.
Let it stretch you.
Let it show you who’s really capable of loving you through your evolution.
Because the ones who are meant to walk with you won’t need to be convinced. They’ll rise to meet you. Or they’ll fall away with grace.
And both are a blessing.
The Soft Power Journal 