Tag: Growth

  • Not Everyone Can Walk with You into Your Becoming

    Not Everyone Can Walk with You into Your Becoming

    There comes a point in your journey where your growth becomes too loud to ignore. Where your softness can no longer be mistaken for weakness. Where your soul starts shedding what no longer fits—not because it’s unkind, but because it’s misaligned.

    This is the part they don’t prepare you for.

    Not everyone can walk with you into your becoming.

    Some people are attached to the version of you that never said no. The version that bent over backwards. The one that tolerated crumbs, overlooked patterns, or kept the peace at the expense of her own.

    But becoming is disruptive.

    It reorders the entire room.

    It asks you to choose peace over people-pleasing.

    And in doing so, it naturally reveals who was only comfortable with your silence—not your truth.

    This kind of growth feels like grief. Not because you’re doing something wrong—but because you’re doing something right. You’re honoring the version of you that was always quietly waiting to be chosen by you.

    Letting go doesn’t always come with closure. Sometimes the closure is realizing that you kept the door open for people who were never planning to meet you on the other side.

    And that’s okay.

    Because this chapter isn’t about proving your worth. It’s about protecting it. It’s about becoming the kind of woman who no longer performs for proximity or settles for companionship that costs her clarity. It’s about walking away with your head high and your heart soft—knowing that your becoming will require you to outgrow what once felt like home.

    Let it.

    Let it shape you.

    Let it stretch you.

    Let it show you who’s really capable of loving you through your evolution.

    Because the ones who are meant to walk with you won’t need to be convinced. They’ll rise to meet you. Or they’ll fall away with grace.

    And both are a blessing.

  • Dear Former Me-Changes Are Happening

    Dear Former Me-Changes Are Happening

    Dear Former Me,

    I won’t lie to you.. I’m a little scared with all of these changes going on. I’ve never really knew how to adapt to changes. I’m quick to want to shut down or I would get really angry about nothing going to plan but lately? It’s felt really good to just simply say that I’m scared and still be open to how life unfolds.

    I’m someone who usually craves clarity but lately, I’ve been genuinely just embracing the unknown. I’m learning it’s often times not as bad as I think. There’s always something good waiting on the other end.

    But still, I still feel scared. Sometimes I feel like I’m not doing enough or that I’m letting others down by wanting to do things differently. I guess if I’m being honest, in a way, I am.

    Not intentionally but still, maybe that’s part of the plan? Not my plan but God’s plan. I don’t always understand God’s plan though and that causes me frustration but I’m trying to open up space to just allow God to do his thing. It’s not easy. I’m really not used to this.. emptiness in my life.. or at least, the feeling of emptiness because when I actually zoom out, my life isn’t empty at all.. but still.. it feels like I’m forever waiting for something that isn’t really quite here yet. Or like maybe I’m just missing it.

    Either way, I’m just learning how to trust the process.. I hope that I’m doing it right. Every time I think I’m doing good, this little voice in my head creeps in and causes me to doubt everything.. I’m working really hard to not trust the voice but trust my heart instead. I’m learning that’s where I operate best at.

    This is exhausting though. It seems like in life, people always tell you to think logically and on one end, I get it but, on the other, it exhausts me. Feelings are not facts, I get it.. but.. my heart is my heart.. and I want to trust it.. I think what I’m really saying is that I’m hoping to trust my heart more and trust God more in this new season of life.. Maybe I’m silly.. Maybe I’m not.. I guess time will tell..

    Look Evelyn, I just need you to know that it’s ok to feel everything that you’re feeling. The confusion, the fear, the happiness, the hopefulness.. feel it all.. you won’t regret it.. in fact, maybe that’s where your true power is. Embracing your vulnerability. That’s something I’ve been learning to do lately and I truly hope that one day, you really learn it to and you hold on to it because here’s the truth… Nobody can be strong all the time.. and that’s what we’re learning.. Embrace being human and just allow God to take the burdens from you.

    Life is for living. So live it up baby girl!

    I love you so so much!

    Forever Yours,

    Evelyn

  • Embracing Disappointment: The Power of Letting Go and Trusting the Process

    Embracing Disappointment: The Power of Letting Go and Trusting the Process

    Disappointment is something we all face at some point in our lives. Whether it’s missing an opportunity, facing a setback, or having expectations that don’t align with reality, it’s a feeling that can leave us heartbroken, frustrated, and uncertain about the future. But what if we embraced disappointment as an opportunity for growth, learning, and self-discovery? What if we could see the beauty in letting go and allowing life to unfold as it’s meant to, even when things don’t go as planned? 🌱✨

    The Reality of Disappointment:

    For me, disappointment hit hard not too long ago. I was so excited to visit Texas, a place I had longed to experience, but life had other plans. Missing my flight felt like the universe slapped me with an undeniable message—something was off. On top of that, I lost my wallet, which only added to the weight of my emotions. But, as challenging as it was, it also gave me the chance to face my disappointment head-on and experience what it truly means to lean into life, even when the waves of discomfort and uncertainty came crashing in. 🌊💔

    The Power of Letting Go:

    We often fight against disappointment. We resist it, try to change it, or beat ourselves up about it. But as I allowed myself to sit with my feelings and truly experience the disappointment, I realized that it’s in these moments of surrender where the magic happens. ✨ I had to let go of the idea of control. Life doesn’t always go according to plan, but that doesn’t mean it’s not unfolding in the way it’s supposed to. 🌟

    Sometimes, we believe we’re heading in one direction, but the universe—or God—has a way of guiding us to something even better. I realized that my trip to Texas wasn’t meant to happen at that moment, but something else was waiting for me. I wasn’t thrilled to be in a city that wasn’t part of my plan, but I decided to allow myself to be present, to let go of my expectations, and to see what could unfold. That’s when the beauty of the situation revealed itself. 🌻

    A New Connection:

    In the midst of my disappointment, I met someone kind, thoughtful, and full of positive energy. 🌈 Our paths crossed in the most unexpected way, and what I had thought was a setback turned into an opportunity for a meaningful connection. Life had a different plan for me, and I chose to embrace it with open arms. 🤗

    This experience also led me to something I don’t often make room for: letting my hair down and laughing from the bottom of my stomach. It was a reminder to live freely, to allow myself to be unburdened by perfection or society’s expectations, and to release the control I often hold onto so tightly. I realized I was also letting go of myself—the expectations I place on me, the pressure I feel to be in control, and the fear of not meeting some invisible standard. ✨💫

    The Power of Soft Power in Disappointment:

    It’s easy to forget that disappointment doesn’t mean failure; it simply means that things didn’t turn out the way we expected. But here’s the thing—we’re not responsible for the outcome of every situation. We are responsible for how we choose to handle what comes our way. Soft power, which is grounded in vulnerability, empathy, and grace, teaches us that we can handle disappointment with elegance and inner strength. 💪 When we embrace soft power, we find the strength to acknowledge our feelings, let go of unnecessary burdens, and still find joy in the process. 🌟

    Sometimes, it’s in the darkest moments where we find our greatest growth—and letting go of the need for everything to go perfectly allows us to embrace the beauty in the unexpected. Just as I learned to appreciate the unexpected twists and turns of my journey, you too can learn how to handle disappointment with grace and reclaim your peace in the process. 💕

    Steps to Embrace Soft Power When Facing Disappointment:

    Here’s what I’ve learned about navigating disappointment and using it to empower myself:

    1. Acknowledge the Disappointment: The first step in healing is acknowledging how you feel. Don’t suppress or ignore your emotions. Sit with them and allow yourself to feel the hurt or frustration. 💖

    2. Let Go of Control: Understand that you cannot control everything. Sometimes, life will guide you in a direction you didn’t expect, and that’s okay. Let go of the need to control the outcome and embrace what comes your way. 🌱

    3. Reframe the Situation: Shift your perspective. Ask yourself what lessons you can learn from the disappointment. How is it guiding you to something greater? ✨

    4. Give Yourself Permission to Feel: Embrace the emotions that come up, but also allow yourself the freedom to release them when the time is right. You are not bound to your disappointment. 🌸

    5. Trust the Process: Trust that everything is happening for a reason, even if you can’t see it right now. Life has a way of working itself out, and sometimes the delay is part of the bigger picture. 🌟

    6. Make Space for Joy: Allow yourself to enjoy the present moment. Even in the face of disappointment, find something to smile about. Laughter, even in tough times, is a powerful tool for healing. 🌼

    I encourage you to reflect on the disappointments in your life—what have you been holding onto? How have they shaped your journey? I’d love for you to share your own stories of how you navigated disappointment and found a way to embrace the lessons it offered. Remember, you’re not alone in this process, and your story may help someone else going through something similar. 🧡

    Disappointments are a part of life, but they do not define us. We are not responsible for others’ reactions, nor should we carry the weight of their projections. What matters is how we respond—how we choose to manage our emotions, how we choose to react, and how we reclaim our power in the face of adversity. You are worthy of peace, joy, and fulfillment, regardless of the setbacks that may come your way.

    I see you. I hear you. I value you. You are not alone in this journey. Together, let’s embrace disappointment as an opportunity for growth, connection, and healing. Remember, you are always in control of how you rise from the challenges life presents. ✨🌱