The Soft Power Journal

Tag: Knowing Your Value

  • You Can’t Lose What’s Meant for You

    You Can’t Lose What’s Meant for You

    Let’s get one thing straight: What’s meant for you will never pass you by.

    Not the opportunity.

    Not the relationship.

    Not the success.

    But here’s where many women get stuck—holding onto what isn’t meant for them out of fear that nothing better will come.

    You know that feeling. That hesitation. That internal struggle when you know deep down something isn’t right, but you keep convincing yourself to stay. You tell yourself maybe if you wait a little longer, try a little harder, or compromise just a little more, things will work out.

    But let’s be real: If something requires you to shrink, beg, or suffer just to keep it, was it ever really yours?

    Why Holding On Keeps You Stuck

    Many people think losing something means failure. That if a job didn’t work out, if a relationship ended, or if a door closed, they must have done something wrong.

    But real loss? Is staying in spaces you’ve outgrown.

    The more you cling to what isn’t for you, the more you block what is. The more you entertain half-hearted love, inconsistent energy, and draining situations, the less space you leave for what actually aligns with you.

    So ask yourself:

    Are you holding on because you truly want it, or because you’re afraid to let go?

    Is it feeding your soul or feeding your fears?

    Because the truth is:

    • If it’s meant for you, it won’t require begging.

    • If it’s aligned, it will feel like peace, not anxiety.

    • If it’s real, it won’t make you question your worth.

    Trust the Shift: What’s Yours Will Find You

    The universe doesn’t operate on desperation—it operates on alignment. When you trust that what’s meant for you will come, you stop forcing what isn’t.

    This means:

    • Walking away when you feel unappreciated, instead of waiting for someone to finally see your value.

    • Releasing relationships that no longer serve you, instead of clinging to history.

    • Trusting that rejection is redirection, instead of taking it as a personal failure.

    Let go. Trust the shift. Walk in faith.

    Because when you finally stop fearing loss, you’ll realize you never had to chase what was already yours.

  • You Are the Prize: Stop Acting Like an Option

    You Are the Prize: Stop Acting Like an Option

    How many times have you dimmed your light to make someone else comfortable? How often have you settled for breadcrumbs when you deserved the whole feast?

    Too many women move through life like they are optional—like they have to prove their worth to be chosen. But here’s the truth: You were never meant to be an option. You are the prize.

    The Mindset Shift: From Option to Prize

    Being the prize isn’t arrogance—it’s awareness. It’s knowing that your presence, your energy, and your love are gifts, not bargaining chips. It’s recognizing that you don’t have to perform, overgive, or contort yourself just to be “worthy.” You are worthy as you are.

    Men know this. Powerful people know this. The only question is—do you?

    The way you see yourself determines how the world treats you. When you see yourself as the prize, you naturally stop entertaining people and situations that don’t match your value. You stop chasing and start attracting. You stop waiting to be chosen and start choosing yourself.

    How to Step Into Your Prize Energy

    If you’ve spent your life feeling like you have to work for love, validation, or attention, shifting into this mindset takes work. But once you do, you’ll never settle again. Here’s how:

    1. Stop Overexplaining Yourself – You don’t have to justify your standards. If someone can’t meet them, that’s their limitation, not yours.

    2. Embody Main Character Energy- You’re not a side character in someone else’s story. You are the main event. Move accordingly.

    3. Detach from Who Doesn’t Choose You – If they’re inconsistent, unsure, or playing games, let them go. The right people don’t make you feel like you’re an afterthought.

    4. Upgrade Your Environment – Your surroundings should reflect your worth. Elevate the places, people, and experiences you allow into your space.

    5. Let People Prove Themselves to You – You are not the one trying out for their life; they are trying out for yours. Observe, don’t audition.

    The Energy Shift That Changes Everything

    The moment you stop begging for what should be freely given, everything changes. You become magnetic—not because you’re chasing validation, but because your self-worth is unshakable.

    Men feel this energy. People in power sense it. Opportunities respond to it.

    You are no longer just another option. You are the rare, once-in-a-lifetime experience that only a select few get access to. And once you start seeing yourself that way, the world will have no choice but to do the same.

    So, raise your standards.

    Sit at your own table.

    Move like the prize that you are.

    Because when you do? The game changes.