We’ve all done it—defended a choice we outgrew, justified someone’s inconsistency, or explained away our own resistance to growth. But let’s call it what it is: an excuse is still an excuse, no matter how spiritual or intellectual we dress it up to be.
There’s a difference between honoring your process and avoiding your power. One is rooted in grace. The other in fear.
Sometimes the most dangerous thing isn’t the habit or the person—it’s the narrative we create around it. The one that lets us stay a little longer in the place we no longer belong. The one that says, “I’m just being patient,” when what we’re really doing is procrastinating on our potential. The one that says, “Maybe they’ll change,” when we know good and well they already showed us who they are.
The truth? Excuses keep you safe, but they also keep you small. And there comes a point in your journey when protecting your softness requires the kind of structure that no longer allows you to run in circles. When being the woman you prayed to become demands you stop justifying the very things keeping you from her.
You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to grow. And you are especially allowed to outgrow the stories that no longer serve you.
So ask yourself gently—but honestly:
What are you still explaining away?
Who are you still making room for that isn’t showing up?
What are you still calling timing that’s really avoidance?
You don’t have to shame yourself. You just have to be real enough to call it.
The moment you stop making excuses is the moment you start making room—for your next level, your next blessing, your next version of you.
Because liberation doesn’t come with a permission slip. It comes with a decision.
The Soft Power Journal 