The Soft Power Journal

Tag: Self-Acceptance

  • Wholeness Doesn’t Mean You’re Always Okay: Holding Space for the Messy Middle

    Wholeness Doesn’t Mean You’re Always Okay: Holding Space for the Messy Middle

    There’s this quiet pressure in healing culture that whispers, “If you’re doing the work, you shouldn’t still feel like this.”

    But real healing—soul-deep, identity-shifting, root-pulling healing—is not linear, polished, or predictable.

    Wholeness does not mean you’re always okay.

    It means you’re always becoming.

    Some days you’ll feel like the woman you prayed to become. Other days, you’ll feel like the girl who needed rescuing. And both can exist within you. At the same time. Without contradiction. Without shame.

    The Lie of Constant Progress

    We’re taught to measure growth by progress. By movement. By proof. But some of the deepest healing happens in stillness—in the unseen choices, in the quiet no’s, in the tears you don’t post, in the days you show up without makeup or a plan, and still breathe through it.

    There is no perfect version of you waiting at the end of the path. You’re not a problem to be solved. You are a process unfolding.

    This Is What the Messy Middle Looks Like:

    You set boundaries, then second-guess them.

    You choose softness, then feel exposed.

    You reclaim your worth, then catch yourself trying to earn it.

    You feel proud and still deeply tired.

    This is not a setback. It’s the space in between—where you grieve, recalibrate, and re-learn what safety feels like in your body.

    Holding Space for All of You

    You are not meant to heal in a straight line. You are allowed to pause. To feel joy and grief within the same breath. To still long for clarity while honoring how far you’ve come. To admit that even as a whole woman, sometimes you’re just… tired.

    Stop waiting until you feel “more together” to show up for your life. You are already whole. Even when you wobble. Even when you cry. Even when you can’t explain why you feel the way you do.

    This is the brave part of healing no one talks about: allowing the mess and the magic to sit beside each other.

    Let that be enough today.

    If this resonated with you, take a moment to explore more essays inside The Soft Power Journal. Each piece is a quiet return to truth, softness, and soul.

  • You’re Not Too Much—They Were Just Too Small

    You’re Not Too Much—They Were Just Too Small

    There’s a lie that so many of us, especially women, have been fed since the beginning:

    That we have to shrink in order to be loved.

    That our softness is a burden.

    That our strength makes us intimidating.

    That our emotions are too much.

    And what happens when you hear that lie enough times?

    You start trying to edit yourself.

    You overthink every word, every feeling, every truth your body wants to speak.

    You start shrinking in places where you were born to rise.

    But let me tell you something—and I want you to read this slow:

    You were never too much.

    You were never too sensitive.

    You were never too emotional, too bold, too loud, too honest.

    They were just too small to hold the fullness of you.

    You weren’t asking for too much—you were just asking the wrong people.

    The truth is, being deeply connected to yourself and your truth is a gift. Not everyone will know what to do with that. And that’s not your burden to carry. That’s their limitation. Their emotional immaturity. Their discomfort with intimacy. Their unhealed parts reacting to your wholeness. And you do not have to apologize for that.

    In fact, one of the softest, most feminine things you can do is release the need to be understood by everyone.

    Let them misunderstand you. Let them label you. Let them make assumptions.

    You’re not here to be digestible.

    You’re here to be true.

    You don’t have to justify your tears.

    You don’t have to explain why you care so deeply.

    You don’t need to prove your softness isn’t weakness.

    The ones who are meant to see you—will.

    The ones who can hold space for all of you won’t flinch when you bring your full self to the table.

    You don’t need to shrink. You need to stretch.

    You don’t need to quiet down. You need to get louder.

    And not in volume—but in presence. In truth. In power.

    This post isn’t about clapping back.

    It’s about calling yourself forward.

    So let me ask you:

    Where are you still shrinking to fit?

    Who are you editing yourself for?

    What version of you are you finally ready to reclaim?

    This is your permission slip.

    To take up space.

    To show up fully.

    To be both gentle and powerful.

    To be seen, felt, heard—and deeply respected.

    And if someone calls that “too much”?

    Tell them this: “I’m not too much. You’re just not enough for me.”

    Let that be your standard. Let that be your liberation.

    ✨ Let this post be your reminder: softness is not weakness, and your truth deserves room. Continue your journey through power, presence, and radical softness at The Soft Power Journal.

  • The Power of Letting Go: Releasing What No Longer Serves You

    The Power of Letting Go: Releasing What No Longer Serves You

    Sometimes, the hardest thing we can do for ourselves is let go. We hold on to people, situations, and beliefs that no longer serve us, believing that holding on means we’re strong. But the truth is, the real power comes from the courage to release—to let go of what’s hurting us, what’s keeping us stuck, and what’s no longer aligned with the woman we’re becoming. Letting go isn’t weakness; it’s a radical act of self-love, one that allows you to release the chains that hold you back and make space for the abundance and joy meant for you.

    Why Letting Go is Essential for Growth:

    Growth is a messy, imperfect journey. It can feel like a battle we’re not prepared for, and sometimes we’re scared to face it. But here’s the truth I wish I’d known sooner: letting go is part of your growth story. Without it, you can’t fully evolve into the version of yourself that is free and capable of reaching your full potential.

    I remember countless nights lying awake, worried about what would happen if I finally let go. Would I lose myself? Would I have the courage to rebuild? Would I be forever alone? These fears held me captive for so long. I didn’t realize at the time that those fears were just illusions. What I discovered later is that letting go wasn’t the end—it was the beginning of something much more beautiful.

    When I allowed myself to release what no longer served me, I felt lighter. It was as if I could breathe again. Although the process wasn’t easy, it was empowering. Letting go became my ticket to reclaiming myself, my peace, and stepping into my own power. It’s a journey I wish I had embraced sooner.

    What to Let Go Of:

    1. Toxic Relationships:

    • One of the hardest things to do is to walk away from relationships that drain us. I held on for years, believing that loyalty meant staying—even when it was toxic. But staying in relationships that made me feel small or unappreciated only led me further away from my true self. Letting go of these relationships was one of the most challenging, but necessary steps I’ve taken to preserve my peace. It wasn’t just about walking away from others, but walking towards a life that honored who I am.

    2. Old Beliefs About Yourself:

    • How often do we hold on to limiting beliefs that keep us small? For years, I thought I wasn’t worthy of success, love, or true happiness. These false beliefs weighed me down and kept me from living the life I wanted. But the day I asked myself, “Why am I choosing to stay small?” everything shifted. I started to see my worth, my power, and my beauty in ways I hadn’t before. Letting go of those beliefs wasn’t immediate, but it was life-changing.

    3. Past Mistakes and Guilt:

    • I spent so much time living in regret. I couldn’t forgive myself for mistakes I’d made, things I couldn’t undo. But as I started to forgive myself, I realized that holding on to guilt was preventing me from moving forward. Letting go of regret has been a long journey, but it has brought me closer to peace, acceptance, and freedom.

    The Freedom You Gain from Letting Go:

    When we let go, we create space. Space for new opportunities, for healing, and for love. Letting go has given me freedom in so many ways—freedom from regret, freedom from the past, and the freedom to live in alignment with the woman I’m becoming. It has allowed me to step into my power, to trust in my own worth, and to finally believe that I deserve the life I’ve always dreamed of.

    How to Let Go:

    1. Acknowledge What Needs to Go:

    • The first step in letting go is recognizing what no longer serves you. Whether it’s a toxic relationship, an outdated belief, or a past mistake, acknowledging what needs to be released is crucial. Be honest with yourself and give yourself permission to let go.

    2. Let Yourself Feel:

    • Letting go isn’t just about rationalizing that something doesn’t serve you. It’s about feeling the emotions that come with it—anger, sadness, fear. Allow yourself to grieve. Give yourself permission to feel the sadness, anger, or fear. Feel it all so you can release it.

    3. Take Empowered Action:

    • After processing the emotions, take action. Whether it’s setting boundaries, speaking your truth, or forgiving yourself, every step you take toward letting go is an affirmation of your self-worth. You deserve a life filled with joy, love, and peace.

    The Importance of Managing Our Reactions:

    Here’s something that’s so crucial: we are not responsible for others’ emotions, bad behavior, or emotional baggage. We can’t control how others feel or act. What we are responsible for is how we choose to manage our stress, how we react to discomfort, disappointment, and stress.

    We often internalize other people’s emotional reactions, thinking we need to fix things, apologize, or take on their pain. But the truth is, we are only responsible for our own emotional landscape. We can choose how we react to stress, setbacks, or other people’s negative behaviors. We are not obligated to carry anyone else’s burdens but our own.

    By letting go of the weight of others’ emotions and focusing on how we manage ourselves in stressful situations, we free ourselves to respond with grace, clarity, and strength. We no longer need to take on the emotional burdens that are not ours to bear.

    Call to Action:

    I challenge you today to reflect on what you are holding onto. Is it a relationship, a belief, or a past mistake that’s keeping you stuck? Think about what you can release today, and make the conscious decision to let it go. When you do, you’ll create the space for all the amazing things that are meant for you.

    Letting go is not a sign of weakness; it’s an act of love, strength, and self-respect. It’s about releasing what no longer serves you and making room for something better. Remember, you are not responsible for others’ emotions, bad behavior, or emotional baggage. You are only responsible for how you manage your own emotions and reactions. When you choose to let go, you step into a future where you can shine as the fullest, most powerful version of yourself.

    Letting go isn’t just about the things you release—it’s about the life you make space for. You deserve freedom, peace, and joy. It’s time to let go of what no longer serves you and step into your full potential.

    A Personal Message:

    I want you to know that I see you. I hear you. I value you. This journey of letting go is not easy, and I honor the courage it takes to do so. Please remember, you are not alone in this process. We are all on this path together, learning and growing. And as you navigate the pain and release, always remember that you are worthy of everything good and beautiful that is waiting for you.

    You’ve got this. I believe in you.

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