The Soft Power Journal

Tag: Spiritual Growth

  • Excuses Keep You Stuck: What Are You Still Justifying?

    Excuses Keep You Stuck: What Are You Still Justifying?

    We’ve all done it—defended a choice we outgrew, justified someone’s inconsistency, or explained away our own resistance to growth. But let’s call it what it is: an excuse is still an excuse, no matter how spiritual or intellectual we dress it up to be.

    There’s a difference between honoring your process and avoiding your power. One is rooted in grace. The other in fear.

    Sometimes the most dangerous thing isn’t the habit or the person—it’s the narrative we create around it. The one that lets us stay a little longer in the place we no longer belong. The one that says, “I’m just being patient,” when what we’re really doing is procrastinating on our potential. The one that says, “Maybe they’ll change,” when we know good and well they already showed us who they are.

    The truth? Excuses keep you safe, but they also keep you small. And there comes a point in your journey when protecting your softness requires the kind of structure that no longer allows you to run in circles. When being the woman you prayed to become demands you stop justifying the very things keeping you from her.

    You’re allowed to change your mind. You’re allowed to grow. And you are especially allowed to outgrow the stories that no longer serve you.

    So ask yourself gently—but honestly:

    What are you still explaining away?

    Who are you still making room for that isn’t showing up?

    What are you still calling timing that’s really avoidance?

    You don’t have to shame yourself. You just have to be real enough to call it.

    The moment you stop making excuses is the moment you start making room—for your next level, your next blessing, your next version of you.

    Because liberation doesn’t come with a permission slip. It comes with a decision.

  • You Can’t Shame Me Into Shrinking: The Bold Return to Wholeness

    You Can’t Shame Me Into Shrinking: The Bold Return to Wholeness

    There comes a point in your journey where you stop internalizing the projections of others. You stop negotiating with shame. You stop apologizing for the space you take up, the truth you carry, or the softness you’ve reclaimed.

    Because here’s the truth: people will try to shame you for evolving. They will try to guilt you for growing. They will call your boundaries selfish, your clarity cold, your joy arrogant, and your confidence too much.

    But when you’ve worked for your wholeness—when you’ve bled for your peace, broken generational patterns, and peeled back layers of trauma just to breathe without flinching—why would you ever let someone else’s comfort cost you your healing?

    You don’t owe anyone a diluted version of you just because they haven’t met themselves yet.

    The Lie of Shame and the Cost of Shrinking

    Shame is a tool that keeps us small. It’s weaponized silence. It’s the mechanism of a society that benefits from you staying broken and busy trying to prove your worth. When you shrink, you become easier to manage. When you doubt yourself, you’re easier to control. When you stay quiet, you’re less of a threat.

    But the real threat was never your voice. It was your becoming.

    Let them feel uncomfortable. Let them confront their own limitations when they stand in the presence of someone who has chosen truth, alignment, and softness as her new baseline.

    This isn’t arrogance. This is reclamation.

    You Were Never Too Much—You Were Just Misunderstood

    Your softness isn’t weakness. Your power isn’t a problem. Your presence isn’t a disruption. It’s medicine—for you, and for those with the courage to receive it.

    So if they try to shame you back into silence… keep speaking.

    If they try to guilt you back into pleasing… keep honoring your truth.

    If they try to box you into a version of yourself you’ve outgrown… keep walking.

    You don’t need to dim your light to keep other people comfortable in their shadows.

    You’ve earned your wholeness. Keep it.

    This post is part of the September series on The Soft Power Journal. Keep exploring the truths that help you return to yourself, without apology.

  • This Isn’t Stuck, This is Preparation

    This Isn’t Stuck, This is Preparation

    There’s a moment when the noise dies down.

    The texts slow.

    The plans don’t go through.

    The vision board starts to blur.

    And even though you’re still showing up, still breathing, still doing what you can… it feels like nothing is moving.

    You start wondering if you’re missing something.

    If you lost your touch.

    If God stopped listening.

    But what if… you’re not stuck?

    What if this is holy ground, and you’re standing at the edge of a becoming too sacred to rush?

    Because here’s what nobody tells you:

    Preparation feels like stillness.

    It feels like quiet days, unseen work, plans that don’t stick, and prayers that echo back with silence.

    It feels like pulling weeds with no sign of blooms.

    And it will feel like stuck—until you realize you’re actually being softened for what’s next.

    I know that space.

    I’ve cried in it. Fought it. Tried to outwork it.

    I’ve sat in rooms where I once felt powerful and wondered why I suddenly felt invisible.

    I’ve looked at other people’s progress and questioned if I took too many detours.

    But eventually I realized:

    Every delay was disguised direction. Every pause was a prayer being answered quietly.

    Because real power?

    It doesn’t always enter loud.

    Sometimes it tiptoes in while you’re wiping your eyes and learning how to be gentle with yourself again.

    Let’s talk about what preparation really looks like:

    It’s the days when nothing makes sense but your intuition won’t let you quit.

    It’s the version of you that doesn’t feel “on,” but somehow still chooses to show up.

    It’s the space between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming—and the ache of no longer fitting into either.

    You’re not being punished.

    You’re being positioned.

    But you’ve gotta stop calling it stuck.

    Because stuck implies lifelessness.

    And sis, you are anything but lifeless.

    You are actively being re-rooted.

    Refined.

    Redirected.

    Even if it doesn’t look like movement, you are becoming.

    Here’s how to hold yourself when it feels like nothing’s happening:

    1. Stop measuring your momentum by what’s visible.

    Growth doesn’t always leave proof. Sometimes the roots are strengthening before the bloom.

    2. Ask: “What is this preparing me for?” instead of “Why is this happening?”

    Shift the narrative. You’re not being blocked, you’re being built.

    3. Create a “preparation altar.”

    Write down what you’re calling in. Add something symbolic—an old photo, a letter, a verse.

    Place it somewhere you’ll see every day. Let it remind you that the pause is sacred.

    4. Breathe. Really breathe.

    When you start to spiral, come back to your body.

    Place your hand on your heart and say: I trust this pause is protecting and preparing me.

    5. Let this version of you be enough.

    Not the “glowed up” one. Not the “ready” one.

    The one that’s in-between. The one learning how to hold faith without a finish line.

    If this season is quiet… you’re not broken. You’re being spoken to differently.

    So maybe it’s not time to force a breakthrough.

    Maybe it’s time to receive what only silence can offer.

    You don’t need to have all the answers.

    You don’t need to be on fire to be walking in purpose.

    And you don’t need to rush something that’s already yours.

    This isn’t stuck.

    This is where your wings are being stretched.

    This is where your prayers are gaining roots.

    This is where power is being woven into your stillness.

    This… is preparation.

  • Welcome to The Soft Power Journal: Because Strength Doesn’t Have To Be Loud

    Welcome to The Soft Power Journal: Because Strength Doesn’t Have To Be Loud

    For so long, I believed strength had to be loud. That power meant proving yourself—asserting your value through force or presence. But over time, life has taught me something different. True strength is soft. It’s resilient, grounded, and deeply rooted in self-awareness. It’s the kind of power that doesn’t demand attention but instead draws it naturally.

    That’s the essence of The Soft Power Journal, and I’m so excited to share this space with you.

    Why I Started This Blog

    I created this blog as a place to document my journey of growth, grace, and embracing the quiet strength within. Over the years, I’ve learned that life is always teaching us something, whether through challenges, moments of joy, or the people we meet along the way.

    Here, I’ll share those lessons—sometimes through personal reflections, other times through stories of people who’ve inspired me. This is a space where I can process, connect, and hopefully inspire others who are navigating their own journeys.

    What You Can Expect

    The Soft Power Journal will be a blend of journal-style entries, personal growth lessons, and reflections on what it means to embody soft power. Some posts will explore themes like intuition, grace, and transformation. Others will focus on practical ways to embrace a high-value mindset, live intentionally, and stay true to yourself.

    I’ll also share stories from others—those who’ve taught me valuable lessons about strength, growth, and resilience. My hope is that this blog becomes a place where we can learn and grow together.

    Welcome to the Journey

    This is just the beginning of The Soft Power Journal, and I can’t wait to share this journey with you. Whether you’re here for inspiration, insight, or a sense of connection, I hope you’ll find somethings that resonates deeply.

    Thank you for being here—welcome to a space of reflection, growth, and soft power.