Tag: Trust The Process

  • This Isn’t Stuck, This is Preparation

    This Isn’t Stuck, This is Preparation

    There’s a moment when the noise dies down.

    The texts slow.

    The plans don’t go through.

    The vision board starts to blur.

    And even though you’re still showing up, still breathing, still doing what you can… it feels like nothing is moving.

    You start wondering if you’re missing something.

    If you lost your touch.

    If God stopped listening.

    But what if… you’re not stuck?

    What if this is holy ground, and you’re standing at the edge of a becoming too sacred to rush?

    Because here’s what nobody tells you:

    Preparation feels like stillness.

    It feels like quiet days, unseen work, plans that don’t stick, and prayers that echo back with silence.

    It feels like pulling weeds with no sign of blooms.

    And it will feel like stuck—until you realize you’re actually being softened for what’s next.

    I know that space.

    I’ve cried in it. Fought it. Tried to outwork it.

    I’ve sat in rooms where I once felt powerful and wondered why I suddenly felt invisible.

    I’ve looked at other people’s progress and questioned if I took too many detours.

    But eventually I realized:

    Every delay was disguised direction. Every pause was a prayer being answered quietly.

    Because real power?

    It doesn’t always enter loud.

    Sometimes it tiptoes in while you’re wiping your eyes and learning how to be gentle with yourself again.

    Let’s talk about what preparation really looks like:

    It’s the days when nothing makes sense but your intuition won’t let you quit.

    It’s the version of you that doesn’t feel “on,” but somehow still chooses to show up.

    It’s the space between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming—and the ache of no longer fitting into either.

    You’re not being punished.

    You’re being positioned.

    But you’ve gotta stop calling it stuck.

    Because stuck implies lifelessness.

    And sis, you are anything but lifeless.

    You are actively being re-rooted.

    Refined.

    Redirected.

    Even if it doesn’t look like movement, you are becoming.

    Here’s how to hold yourself when it feels like nothing’s happening:

    1. Stop measuring your momentum by what’s visible.

    Growth doesn’t always leave proof. Sometimes the roots are strengthening before the bloom.

    2. Ask: “What is this preparing me for?” instead of “Why is this happening?”

    Shift the narrative. You’re not being blocked, you’re being built.

    3. Create a “preparation altar.”

    Write down what you’re calling in. Add something symbolic—an old photo, a letter, a verse.

    Place it somewhere you’ll see every day. Let it remind you that the pause is sacred.

    4. Breathe. Really breathe.

    When you start to spiral, come back to your body.

    Place your hand on your heart and say: I trust this pause is protecting and preparing me.

    5. Let this version of you be enough.

    Not the “glowed up” one. Not the “ready” one.

    The one that’s in-between. The one learning how to hold faith without a finish line.

    If this season is quiet… you’re not broken. You’re being spoken to differently.

    So maybe it’s not time to force a breakthrough.

    Maybe it’s time to receive what only silence can offer.

    You don’t need to have all the answers.

    You don’t need to be on fire to be walking in purpose.

    And you don’t need to rush something that’s already yours.

    This isn’t stuck.

    This is where your wings are being stretched.

    This is where your prayers are gaining roots.

    This is where power is being woven into your stillness.

    This… is preparation.

  • You Can’t Lose What’s Meant for You

    You Can’t Lose What’s Meant for You

    Let’s get one thing straight: What’s meant for you will never pass you by.

    Not the opportunity.

    Not the relationship.

    Not the success.

    But here’s where many women get stuck—holding onto what isn’t meant for them out of fear that nothing better will come.

    You know that feeling. That hesitation. That internal struggle when you know deep down something isn’t right, but you keep convincing yourself to stay. You tell yourself maybe if you wait a little longer, try a little harder, or compromise just a little more, things will work out.

    But let’s be real: If something requires you to shrink, beg, or suffer just to keep it, was it ever really yours?

    Why Holding On Keeps You Stuck

    Many people think losing something means failure. That if a job didn’t work out, if a relationship ended, or if a door closed, they must have done something wrong.

    But real loss? Is staying in spaces you’ve outgrown.

    The more you cling to what isn’t for you, the more you block what is. The more you entertain half-hearted love, inconsistent energy, and draining situations, the less space you leave for what actually aligns with you.

    So ask yourself:

    Are you holding on because you truly want it, or because you’re afraid to let go?

    Is it feeding your soul or feeding your fears?

    Because the truth is:

    If it’s meant for you, it won’t require begging.

    If it’s aligned, it will feel like peace, not anxiety.

    If it’s real, it won’t make you question your worth.

    Trust the Shift: What’s Yours Will Find You

    The universe doesn’t operate on desperation—it operates on alignment. When you trust that what’s meant for you will come, you stop forcing what isn’t.

    This means:

    Walking away when you feel unappreciated, instead of waiting for someone to finally see your value.

    Releasing relationships that no longer serve you, instead of clinging to history.

    Trusting that rejection is redirection, instead of taking it as a personal failure.

    Let go. Trust the shift. Walk in faith.

    Because when you finally stop fearing loss, you’ll realize you never had to chase what was already yours.

  • Embracing Disappointment: The Power of Letting Go and Trusting the Process

    Embracing Disappointment: The Power of Letting Go and Trusting the Process

    Disappointment is something we all face at some point in our lives. Whether it’s missing an opportunity, facing a setback, or having expectations that don’t align with reality, it’s a feeling that can leave us heartbroken, frustrated, and uncertain about the future. But what if we embraced disappointment as an opportunity for growth, learning, and self-discovery? What if we could see the beauty in letting go and allowing life to unfold as it’s meant to, even when things don’t go as planned? 🌱✨

    The Reality of Disappointment:

    For me, disappointment hit hard not too long ago. I was so excited to visit Texas, a place I had longed to experience, but life had other plans. Missing my flight felt like the universe slapped me with an undeniable message—something was off. On top of that, I lost my wallet, which only added to the weight of my emotions. But, as challenging as it was, it also gave me the chance to face my disappointment head-on and experience what it truly means to lean into life, even when the waves of discomfort and uncertainty came crashing in. 🌊💔

    The Power of Letting Go:

    We often fight against disappointment. We resist it, try to change it, or beat ourselves up about it. But as I allowed myself to sit with my feelings and truly experience the disappointment, I realized that it’s in these moments of surrender where the magic happens. ✨ I had to let go of the idea of control. Life doesn’t always go according to plan, but that doesn’t mean it’s not unfolding in the way it’s supposed to. 🌟

    Sometimes, we believe we’re heading in one direction, but the universe—or God—has a way of guiding us to something even better. I realized that my trip to Texas wasn’t meant to happen at that moment, but something else was waiting for me. I wasn’t thrilled to be in a city that wasn’t part of my plan, but I decided to allow myself to be present, to let go of my expectations, and to see what could unfold. That’s when the beauty of the situation revealed itself. 🌻

    A New Connection:

    In the midst of my disappointment, I met someone kind, thoughtful, and full of positive energy. 🌈 Our paths crossed in the most unexpected way, and what I had thought was a setback turned into an opportunity for a meaningful connection. Life had a different plan for me, and I chose to embrace it with open arms. 🤗

    This experience also led me to something I don’t often make room for: letting my hair down and laughing from the bottom of my stomach. It was a reminder to live freely, to allow myself to be unburdened by perfection or society’s expectations, and to release the control I often hold onto so tightly. I realized I was also letting go of myself—the expectations I place on me, the pressure I feel to be in control, and the fear of not meeting some invisible standard. ✨💫

    The Power of Soft Power in Disappointment:

    It’s easy to forget that disappointment doesn’t mean failure; it simply means that things didn’t turn out the way we expected. But here’s the thing—we’re not responsible for the outcome of every situation. We are responsible for how we choose to handle what comes our way. Soft power, which is grounded in vulnerability, empathy, and grace, teaches us that we can handle disappointment with elegance and inner strength. 💪 When we embrace soft power, we find the strength to acknowledge our feelings, let go of unnecessary burdens, and still find joy in the process. 🌟

    Sometimes, it’s in the darkest moments where we find our greatest growth—and letting go of the need for everything to go perfectly allows us to embrace the beauty in the unexpected. Just as I learned to appreciate the unexpected twists and turns of my journey, you too can learn how to handle disappointment with grace and reclaim your peace in the process. 💕

    Steps to Embrace Soft Power When Facing Disappointment:

    Here’s what I’ve learned about navigating disappointment and using it to empower myself:

    1. Acknowledge the Disappointment: The first step in healing is acknowledging how you feel. Don’t suppress or ignore your emotions. Sit with them and allow yourself to feel the hurt or frustration. 💖

    2. Let Go of Control: Understand that you cannot control everything. Sometimes, life will guide you in a direction you didn’t expect, and that’s okay. Let go of the need to control the outcome and embrace what comes your way. 🌱

    3. Reframe the Situation: Shift your perspective. Ask yourself what lessons you can learn from the disappointment. How is it guiding you to something greater? ✨

    4. Give Yourself Permission to Feel: Embrace the emotions that come up, but also allow yourself the freedom to release them when the time is right. You are not bound to your disappointment. 🌸

    5. Trust the Process: Trust that everything is happening for a reason, even if you can’t see it right now. Life has a way of working itself out, and sometimes the delay is part of the bigger picture. 🌟

    6. Make Space for Joy: Allow yourself to enjoy the present moment. Even in the face of disappointment, find something to smile about. Laughter, even in tough times, is a powerful tool for healing. 🌼

    I encourage you to reflect on the disappointments in your life—what have you been holding onto? How have they shaped your journey? I’d love for you to share your own stories of how you navigated disappointment and found a way to embrace the lessons it offered. Remember, you’re not alone in this process, and your story may help someone else going through something similar. 🧡

    Disappointments are a part of life, but they do not define us. We are not responsible for others’ reactions, nor should we carry the weight of their projections. What matters is how we respond—how we choose to manage our emotions, how we choose to react, and how we reclaim our power in the face of adversity. You are worthy of peace, joy, and fulfillment, regardless of the setbacks that may come your way.

    I see you. I hear you. I value you. You are not alone in this journey. Together, let’s embrace disappointment as an opportunity for growth, connection, and healing. Remember, you are always in control of how you rise from the challenges life presents. ✨🌱